Fake it till you make it


Feeling down?  Feeling sad?  Want to be happier.  Well – here is the secret.  Smile!  People who smile are happy.  How easy was that.  Now you are happy.  No?

Not happy yet.  Well, keep smiling, it may take longer but it will work.  There is hard science behind it, but the photos sum it up neatly.  Hold a pencil in your lips without allowing it to touch your teeth.  You need to purse your lips and it makes your face muscles move into a frown.  This makes you feel sad.

Hold the pencil in your teeth without touching your lips, and you are forced into a smile.  The face muscles move into the happy smiling position, and endorphins are released into your system to make you feel happy all over.

If you want to be a happier person, smile intentionally for five minutes every morning.  OK you will feel like a fake, and you will feel awkward, but think of it like morning exercise, facial yoga.  You will feel happier.

Now there are dangers here. Being happier makes you more confident.  You will be open to wearing brighter clothes.  So do it.  Other people will be more open to approaching you and they will be nice to you and that will make you even happier.

Happy confident people also carry themselves differently.  Sit up straight, don’t slouch, walk with a bounce in your step.  Your body then becomes fooled into thinking you are healthy, and you don’t get sick.  No really!  Happy people get sick less than unhappy people, and they live longer healthier lives.

What else do happy people do?  They spend money on experiences rather than things.  They spend money on other people, or they give to charity.  If they have no money, they do things for other people or for the community in general.  Next time you see litter in the street, bend down, pick it up and put it in a bin.  You will be amazed at how great you feel about yourself for the rest of the day.

So if you are feeling sad and lonely, just be happy.  Fake happiness, and you will be happy.

Studies show that 50% of our happiness is genetic.  You can’t change that.  You may have been born a miserable git to a family of miserable gits.  10% of your happiness is down to circumstance.  If you have just lost your job, you are not going to be feeling really happy right now.  But 40%, a whopping 40% of your happiness is down to you.  Your attitude to you.  Your decision to be happy or to be sad and miserable.  BE HAPPY

Finally, money, beyond having the basics you need to live, does NOTHING to make you happy.  Winning the lotto will not make you happy.  Only you can do that.  So SMILE (Hold it, hold it, hold it……..

Smile though your heart is aching
Smile even though it’s breaking
When there are clouds in the sky, you’ll get by
If you smile through your fear and sorrow
Smile and maybe tomorrow
You’ll see the sun come shining through for you

Light up your face with gladness
Hide every trace of sadness
Although a tear may be ever so near
That’s the time you must keep on trying
Smile, what’s the use of crying?
You’ll find that life is still worthwhile
If you just smile

That’s the time you must keep on trying
Smile, what’s the use of crying?
You’ll find that life is still worthwhile
If you just smile…………………………………….Charlie Chaplin et al


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