A very valid question is posed above. When it comes to insights I often default to this one: “When you go home to your mothers house, do you ever walk into the kitchen, open the fridge and have a good look at what is in there?”
It is amazing how this simple insight makes people smile, most recognise the behaviour as something they do. It would be an incredibly rude thing to do with a friend or colleage, but we all do it when we go home to visit Mom, or as we Dubliners call her “de Ma”. The fridge is a symbol for a whole raft of emotions around security, contentment, care and love. A packed fridge is a welcome home, mothers bounty, always there in case of need. It is a visual symbol of a mothers love for her children.
My own mother is old and putting it kindly one might say she is a little forgetful these days. Now when I open the fridge it is to ensure that she is being cared for. That is sad. It makes the house a cold and clinical place to know we can’t just turn up and root out a lunch from the contents.
Food etiquette is central to how we interact with others. Toilet etiquette is not far behind. You don’t arrive into a persons house and just march straight to the bathroom, unless you are in a very bad state. Excusing yourself to the bathroom entails a complex code of doubletalk, innuendo and social manners.
Sasha Baron Cohen, in the character of Borat, uses our ‘delicacy’ around bathroom issues as a source of comedy, as in this video, about 3.30 in: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PebL4qCGK1w
Bathroom etiquette requires that we mask our purpose, We talk of bathrooms and toilets, which were originally places for washing. We should be asking for the W.C. and indeed this is considered to be polite in upper class English circles. The Queen uses a WC. Other, lesser people, refer to the Loo, the Ladies, the Gents, the little girls/boys room, the Facilities, the Washroom, John, Khazi, Dunny and so on.
Now we have the thorny issue of WiFi to worry about. As a good host are you expected to give up your access code? As a guest is it polite to ask for it? Are you going to spend the dinner party gazing into your smart phone? When is it proper for a host to ask you to leave the phone in a box for the evening? If your host asks you to put your phone away should you be mortified and apologetic, or is it OK to tell them to go to hell because they are just Luddites?
Table manners for food and toilets are established and are a still a social minefield. Phone and WiFi manners are still in flux and are constantly evolving. One thing is very sure, lots of people are using their time in the bathroom to check up on their live feed! I just hope they wash their hands first.