Individuals who are comfortable with who they are might be said to have Identity Strength. They are comfortable in their own skins. They are not seeking approval for who they are from others. This radiates from their personality as self-confidence.
People with weak self-identity can come across as trying too hard. Go to any ad agency in the world and you will see the juniors dressed all in black, trying to look cool and arty. Go to Harvard University MBA school and look at the students. Those with high grade point averages will tend to be chilled out, dressed down. Those who are struggling to make the grade scurry by in a suit, carrying a briefcase, trying hard to look important.
Identity strength does not come from personal power or influence, but they do tend to travel the same road. You will only get a job as a CEO if you radiate self-confidence. But a small cog in the organisation can also be a king in his own niche. True contentment can come from finding that niche and being the best you that you can be.
It is very important in life to find and be your own true self. After all, everyone else is taken!
Don’t change on my account ; by Shel Silverstein
If you’re sloppy, that’s just fine.
If you’re moody, I won’t mind.
If you’re fat, that’s fine with me.
If you’re skinny, let it be.
If you’re bossy, that’s alright.
If you’re nasty, I won’t fight.
If you’re rough, well that’s just you.
If you’re mean, that’s alright too.
Whatever you are is all okay.
I don’t like you anyway.