Everybody thinks they are right. If you asked Hitler, Stalin, Ivan the Terrible or Robert Mugabe about their records they would explain to you why they were right and what they did was right and there is a good chance that after an hour with any of them you would begin to accept that they had a valid position.
Everybody thinks they are right.
Christmas is time for families. If anyone knows how to push all your emotional trigger buttons it is your close family. This makes Christmas a time of stress and tension for many. Old arguments bubble to the surface. Kind words and gestures are over-analysed and misinterpreted and rejected.
If you have stress in your relationships here is some sage advice from John Greenleaf Whittier. Just forgive. Whittier is one of the “Fireside Poets” and born this day in 1807. I like to think of the Fireside poets in terms of life before TV, when you might spend a cold winters evening by the fire sharing poetry and stories. Time spent with family and friends, like Christmas.
Forgiveness is hard, because if you mean it then it must be unconditional. You are not offering an olive branch to begin peace talks. You are giving it away, opening your own heart with no expectation of any reciprocal action on the other side. That is real forgiveness.
Forgiveness; by John Greenleaf Whittier
My heart was heavy, for its trust had been
abused, its kindness answered with foul wrong;
so, turning gloomily from my fellow-men,
one summer Sabbath day I strolled among
the green mounds of the village burial-place;
where, pondering how all human love and hate
find one sad level; and how, soon or late,
wronged and wrongdoer, each with meekened face,
and cold hands folded over a still heart,
pass the green threshold of our common grave,
whither all footsteps tend, whence none depart,
awed for myself, and pitying my race,
our common sorrow, like a mighty wave,
swept all my pride away, and trembling I forgave!